10 Ways to Rewrite the Story of Your Life

I’m working on my memoir and my hidden inner stuff wants a voice. It’s been shut down and repressed since the beginning of humanity. It wants to be seen and heard. It’s tired of being in the dark, not knowing the truth, getting all mixed up and wires crossed because it's so dammed dark. Cobwebs gather, bats fly by, dropping more excrement. Long-tailed albino rats with pink eyes scurry by. The pile of crap has been growing for eons and it’s bursting at the seams, ready to flow out.

I’ve done my bit on the cleanup crew. I’ve known the pain and suffering, the torment and anguish, that allows the old paradigm to continue spewing out fear and rage.

I’m creating a new identity. Instead of haranguing on about being a victim, I choose to see my life from an entirely new perspective.

One way to look at my life is to see all the shit I’ve been through, but that’s not what I want. I desire to rewrite my story and move from being a victim to becoming a creator based on my power and magnificence. I have the capacity to see things from a new perspective, which in turn, will help to rewire humanity’s old ingrained programs of fear, lack, and unworthiness.

I choose to claim my power, create a new reality, beyond the neural programs and conditioning of my childhood, and live my wildest dreams. This is a task worth endeavoring.

The challenge is to create a new perspective, and from that vision re-wire the neural patterns in my body, and create a new reality. In order to create a new perspective, I have to look at all the crap. I can’t just sprinkle gold sparkles on top of the garbage dump and expect it to dissolve.

“People say that what we are all seeking is a meaningful life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we are seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.” Joseph Campbell.

ReFraming life

A good chunk of humanity has been living in the pits like scum in the garbage dump. It’s time to clean off the scum and claim our magnificence. As a psychotherapist for decades, I heard the intimate details of hundreds and hundreds of people’s lives. Each one seemed more horrific and grueling than the last. Do we want to continue this cycle or create something new?

ReFrame, ReWrite, ReWire

You’re in a little box with a square peek hole. That’s how we are wired to see the world. Now imagine you can turn the box in any direction you want to and see completely different realities, completely different worlds. From one angle you may see the ocean, from another angle you may see stinky rotting garbage covered with flies mixed with piles of toxic plastic. From another vantage point, you see miles of snarled, jammed up freeway traffic, horns blaring, people yelling and flipping each other the finger. From another perspective, you see clear blue skies and majestic alpine mountains. You get to choose how to reframe your reality.

In our image of looking out a little hole in the box, in order for the box to move, your whole body has to shift. That means your cells, your neurons, the unconscious neural patterns, and your DNA all need to transform and interact in a new way. A fresh way for the consciousness of your body to interact and communicate with your awareness and the essence of your soul.

You get to choose what reality you want to live in. It’s your choice. The one-piece most people don’t realize is that in order for you to live in this other reality, you have to change your cells.

Here are 10 guidelines to help you ReFrame, ReWrite, and ReWire your life and your body.

1. You are the star of your life

How much of you is present in your life? You are the star and not the supporting character in the play of your life. Is your life all about everyone else?

What aspects of you are included and what parts are left out? Stop hiding your gifts so you can fit in, playing small because that is what you are supposed to do.

Give yourself permission to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Parts of you have been hiding for eons, terrified to emerge for fear of being stoned to death, burned at the stake, or ostracized. This fear is buried in everyone, not just women.

Reframe the story of your life, include more of the truth of who you are, and create the reality of your dreams.

2. Writer’s block

We have been told to push through writer’s blocks. Beat yourself up, chain yourself to the chair, squeeze and wring the words out of you onto the paper, no matter what. This is all a part of the old paradigm of using force, dominance, and coercion to reach the goal.

Try something new instead. Thank the empty page and your blank mind. Give yourself permission to be blank. Instead of charging through, thank all the parts that are blocking your writing. Ask to see what they are about and what they want. Write down what your inner wisdom has to say. You may be surprised. Blocks are like ignored, shut-out children that want to be seen, heard, and acknowledged.

Sometimes, I ask my blocks if they would like a vacation; the beach or the mountains seem to be the favorite places. Send your blocks off with gold watches, party hats, and the promise of margaritas on the beach. I’ve found this to work like a charm for me and my clients.

3. Gremlins guard your expansion

The leap into the unknown takes courage. Every time you expand into your next level of success, there are gremlins guarding the gate. The threshold sentinels block the way. These inner goblins make you feel worthless, that you’re writing is no good, or that you’re a fraud.

Self-doubt, making yourself wrong, and getting stuck are all a part of your neural programs and your cellular wiring. The task is to figure out a way around or through the guardians. The greatest treasures are protected by the greatest fears. You can shift all of this with gratitude, self-forgiveness, and self-love.

4. When your wounds flare up, surround yourself with love

Surround yourself with love. Imagine spirals of love and gratitude weaving a blanket of unconditional love around your body creating a safe cocoon. Feel the safety. Open and receive the love all the way down through your body, going back in time to when you were a child. Then envision gratitude and love spiraling through your body through your wounds, through your pain, creating deep transformation. There is a part inside that is untouched and pure.

Years ago, the vast majority of my clients were sexually abused women. I had my clients imagine surrounding all of the violated parts with soft, luscious, peachy pink energy. Amazing healings took place.

5. Thank the horrors

All the horrors that happened to you are not the truth of who you are. As counterintuitive as it may seem, spin gratitude around all the shit that happened to you. Imagine gratitude spiraling all around your body, around your thoughts, spinning all the way down into your core.

There was a time when my trauma, PTSD, panic attacks, plutonium poisoning, hydrogen bombs, and other crap were the stars of my life. Fuck that. None of that is the truth of who I am. The power of the high-frequency gratitude transformed my old yucky trauma and terror.

6. Release shame and guilt

Most guilt and shame are the result of patriarchy, not the result of something you did. It’s all part of the system to keep you down, small, and barely functioning. Guilt and shame are very low frequencies.

As you invite in the frequency of your soul, the low frequencies of guilt and shame transform radically. The frequency of your soul replaces the low frequencies with the truth of who you are, creating more joy, ease, and abundance in your life.

7. Claim your self-worth

You are worthy. You are enough. All the ancient patterns that say you aren’t good enough are just part of the human experience that needs to shift and change. Lack of self-worth has been passed down for generations in human consciousness. It’s all a lie. It’s time to evolve.

8. Take back your power

We have been trained to give away our power. We all have been programmed, particularly women, to let go of our desires and to meet the needs of others instead of our own. This is all bullshit. You come first, then you can assist others from your overflowing love, joy, and delight.

9. Ask your soul to show you a new perspective

I invite you to see your life from a new perspective. Lots of the things we try to hide are actually our strengths and wisdom. Ask to see a particular experience or your life from an expanded perspective.

When seen from a different light, things start to make sense. Your divine soul essence knows the path for you. Look within, all the answers are there, waiting to be asked. Your soul is a humungous light that illuminates more than the puny vision a mind is capable of knowing. Invite miracles to occur.

10. You are awesome

Thank yourself for all you have lived through. You are the only one who knows the depths of your anguish and the heights of your joy. Let it all in. You have survived and now it is time to blossom and flourish.

Rewrite your story. Change your life. Shift the world around you and inspire others to do the same.

Together we can create a new reality.

What are your tools to rewrite your life? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Thanks!